Comparison is such a loser.
Ya know? Like just when you start to feel good about your progress, isn’t that when we always seem to look to the left or right (or in front of us) and think, “Well…I should be there.” Instantly that sense of accomplishment is dead. Goodness, am I ever guilty of this.
I’m a doer.
I believe there is always more.
I believe learning should never stop.
I don’t ever think I will be done growing.
This isn’t necessarily from a “goodness for the sake of goodness’ sake” perspective. I’m not talking about morals here necessarily. But I guess where these thoughts come into my life are in the areas of physical, mental, spiritual, and intellectual growth. I know that I will never know it all. I will never stop trying to be stronger. I can always learn more. And heaven surely knows that I’ll never know all there is to know about God and his character (not even possible!). But that won’t keep me from reaching for more.
It isn’t because this is where I find my worth or to prove anything (at least most of the time), but because I have a conviction deep in my core that God calls me to live life fully and in order to do that, I need to give my all in all that I do (unfortunately, even those things that I don’t really want to do….curse you laundry! haha).
Here’s where I find the struggle though – in wanting to be “there”. I often get lost in focusing on the destination rather than enjoying the journey (cringing at how cliche that sounds……… lol). But it’s true! I want to be at the “end” already, when in reality, there may never be an “end” as long as I’m living! After all, it’s a little bit hard to believe that growth should be a constant if you also want to reach the end – kinda doesn’t add up, right?!
Often, I find this struggle comes when I look around. I see someone who is what I would consider goal worthy when it comes to fitness. I see a blogger who is doing that as a lifestyle and working full time as a creative and I crave what she has. I look at my friends with houses and wonder if I’m missing out (silly, because I ADORE my apartment). I look at people who lead and lead well and wish I was as wise and spiritually mature as they are.
The thing though is…that is their story…not mine.
God has me right where He has me right now for a specific purpose that only He truly knows. But whatever it is, it is good and perfect. I’m in THIS place and THIS moment because He has something greater for me – for me to do or to learn. If I’m busy looking left and right at everyone else, I just might miss the whole point in why I am where I am. What a sad thing that would be.
In today’s world of aesthetically pleasing Insta accounts and symmetrical photos and perfectly curated videos and social media that only shows our “best”, it can be easy to feel like we don’t add up. Given all that I have already shared, of course, I don’t think this means that we should not continue to strive for greatness (which means different things for all of us), but the issue lies in losing sight of our calling by longing for another’s.
My encouragement to you today, is to keep your eyes on your path and take the next step in the direction you are supposed to be going. As my beloved Glennon Doyle says, “Do the next right thing.” It’s not about figuring everything out today. It isn’t about being as *fill in the blank* as someone else. And it certainly isn’t about being perfect. Instead, let’s do the best we can, in the moment we are in, with the talents and gifts we have been given.
Are you ready to move forward, friend?